The question is bittersweet the good thing is we can connect with our loved ones far away more imersevly than a phone call. We have too many options to “connect,” platforms like Snapchat, Instagram and Tiktok expose the users more than they should have in the past, making them prey for internet trolls. And al of this is resulting in the possibility for malicious individuals to scam. For example, there was a high school friend who contacted me through Facebook. After a call with her, I could figure out that someone had hijacked her account and was asking for money. I’ve reported this and didn’t become a victim. Then the comunity blame the victims who fal in the trap that the are stupid. And those victims who where brave enough to make it public make a small number as the victim count is bigger. With all the noise and scams, men and women get overwhelmed and try to protect themselves espetialy the introvert ones and isolate themselves. What most of them do not understand is that love and emotions removes the guard/protection called reason and logic, the ones who are capeble to love will do everything. Then their is a second obsticle, comunication between a man and a woman. You learn a lot in school but not how to care for one another. Not every man or woman had an model family as “this is how it should be”. As a result we repeat our parents faults. We all have simmelar needs, we cannot express it the right way. Dating is exausting I know but been on 20 dates and still no match doesn’t meen that you failed. It meens you need to search further, gems are rare you need to do the extra mile.
People capable to love
Those capable of love will go to great lengths to cultivate and nurture it. They understand that love is an active and intentional choice, requiring effort, patience, and understanding. Individuals with the capacity for deep, genuine love are often characterized by their selflessness and willingness to prioritize the well-being and happiness of their loved ones. The inability to experience or express love can be a complex and challenging aspect of human emotion. There are various reasons why some individuals may find it difficult to engage in loving relationships, and these reasons can be deeply rooted in personal experiences, psychological factors, or a combination of both.
Emotionaly handicaped people
The inability to experience or express love can be a complex and challenging aspect of human emotion. There are various reasons why some individuals may find it difficult to engage in loving relationships, and these reasons can be deeply rooted in personal experiences, psychological factors, or a combination of both.
For some, past traumas or negative experiences may create emotional barriers, making it hard to trust and connect with others on an intimate level. Individuals who have faced negative experiences might struggle with expressing their emotions openly. They may develop a habit of suppressing emotions to avoid reliving painful memories.
Overcoming these emotional barriers often requires time, self-reflection, and, in some cases, professional support. Counseling or therapy can be valuable in helping individuals process and heal from negative experiences, providing tools to navigate emotions and build healthier relationships in the future. Recognizing the impact of past experiences is a crucial step toward fostering emotional well-being and creating a foundation for positive and fulfilling connections. Visiting a mental health professional, often colloquially referred to as “seeing a shrink,” is still considerd a taboo. visiting a mental health professional is not exclusive to individuals facing severe mental health challenges. Mental health professionals, can provide valuable support and guidance for a wide range of concerns, even for those who consider themselves generally healthy.
Remember, seeking help is a sign of strength, and taking the step to give your issues a place can lead to personal growth, increased self-awareness, and a more fulfilling life. Whether it’s through therapy, counseling, or other mental health support, professionals are there to assist you in navigating life’s challenges.
Be brave and stick to your plan. And no it is not you. You are not the problem, you need to find someone who is on your level.
